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    DEVOTIONS IN MUSIC: THIS I BELIEVE (The Creed)

    What are the fundamentals of the Christian faith? What is “essential” to our understanding of God?  As far back as the early church, the Apostles Creed laid out a concise description of God as Father, Christ as Son and Savior, and the Holy Spirit as the third member of the God Head.   A creed is a set of fundamental beliefs. NOTHING is more fundamental than what I believe about God. When I think about what brings this to life for me, the song “This I Believe (The Creed)” fills my heart to overflowing. It is simple enough that I can understand it (at one level) and complex enough to leave me wondering what all it…

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    jthomas
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    Devotions In Music: Give Me Jesus

    “In Your presence is the fullness of joy.” Psalm 16:11 Coffee mugs come in all shapes and sizes and often have a story to tell. Funny, rhyming, thoughtful, and rewarding. I found a few that made me smile. “Coffee, coffee, it’s our drink, If we don’t get it, we don’t think.” “Be nice to your Kids… They will be choosing your nursing home!”.” “I’m really not a Control Freak, but could I show you the right way to do that?” “Dad! The Man, The Myth, The Legend!” One year for my birthday, I got one that simply said, “Give Me Jesus”. The mug brought a smile to my heart. Does…

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    Grounding and Comfort Practices

    Calming Your Body in Times of Sorrow Grief can rise and fall unexpectedly. God doesn’t want you to stop feeling — but He does offer ways to steady your heart in the storm. These practices help your body slow down and your heart settle. These practices are not about ignoring pain but about finding small ways to breathe again.  The 5–4–3–2–1 Technique This simple method helps you reorient yourself when emotions surge. Breathe slowly and notice: As you do, whisper a short prayer: “Lord, help me feel Your presence in this moment.” The Butterfly Hug Cross your arms and rest your hands on your shoulders so your thumbs meet, forming…

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  • Grief in Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Early Infant Death
    Blog,  Faith and Healing,  Grief and Loss,  Pregnancy Loss

    How Does the Way Someone Dies Affect the Grief Process?

    Pregnancy loss grief can feel invisible, confusing, and deeply personal. This post explores how miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss, and abortion shape the grieving process—and what may help.

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    Blog,  Grief and Loss,  Learning in Grief,  Traumatic Loss,  What Influences Grief

    How The Way Someone Dies Affect Grief – Deaths That Raise Difficult Questions

    When a loved one dies in complicated or traumatic circumstances, grief often comes with shame, guilt, and unanswered questions. In this post, we explore how deaths that raise difficult questions shape the grief process and what may help when the story itself feels hard to carry.

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    How The Way Someone Dies Affects Grief: Prolonged Illness

    Grief after prolonged illness is shaped by caregiving, waiting, and loss long before death occurs. This post explores why anticipated loss brings its own complexities.

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    How the Way Someone Dies Affects Grief: Sudden Death

    When death comes without warning, grief often feels disorienting and overwhelming. Sudden loss affects not only the heart, but the mind, body, and even faith. This post explores why grief after sudden death feels so intense—and what may help.

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  • A Season of Remembering
    Blog,  Do Helpful Things,  Faith and Healing,  Grief and Loss

    Do Helpful Things: Look Back and Remember

    Looking back can be one of the most helpful things we do in grief. Remembering loved ones, noticing God’s faithfulness, and walking with others through loss reminds us that even in our darkest moments, we are not alone.

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    Advent Through the Lens of Grief – Christmas Eve – Christ

    On Christmas Eve, the Advent candle of Christ reminds us that God entered a broken world through vulnerability, not power. Through grief, we remember Emmanuel—God with us—whose coming promises that sorrow will not have the final word.

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    Advent Through the Lens of Grief: Week Four – Love

    Love can feel complicated in grief. In this Week Four Advent reflection, we explore God’s love through loss, the incarnation of Christ, and the hope that love did not stay distant—it crossed over.

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