• Why Hope is So Hard

    Learning to Hope Again When Grief Reopens Old Wounds

    This summer, I’ve been working through a Bible study with a friend: Hope For The Hurting Heart, by Linda Dillow. It’s a gentle, faith-based companion for those walking through grief. With honesty shaped by deep loss, Dillow offers more than advice—she offers presence. Her “Heart Skills” are not spiritual checklists. They’re anchors for when sorrow threatens to pull you under. We haven’t made it far in the book yet, but one chapter—on Hope—stopped me in my tracks. Honestly, it would’ve been worth the entire book just for that one lesson. Because if I’m being honest… The search for hope may be my greatest struggle in life. Especially during times of grief.…

  • Five Myths About Grief and The Truth That Will Set You Free

    Grief is complicated. That might be an understatement. We come into grief with perceptions of how it is supposed to work, but what do we base those perceptions upon? Perhaps as you read some common myths about grief, you will find ones you believe. Maybe it is time to take another look at those beliefs. #1 Myth: It will get better with time The truth is that time doesn’t make things better. It is what you do with the time that will make it better. You have to take the time you need to grieve the loss and do helpful things during that time.  #2 Myth: Talking about those who…

  • Grieve In Helpful Ways

    Gifts in the Midst of Grief – Part Two

    I am not sure I set out to find “gifts in the midst of grief.” I just wanted to survive the brokenness I felt. Yet, I did find a second gift. Grieve in Helpful Ways When Bryan died, I only knew ONE person who had lost a child, Joan. She lived in Chicago, and I lived in Texas. She was a bucket person for me. That means I  could lean into her for wisdom and insight, especially the first days, weeks, and months after Bryan died.  During our MANY conversations, especially coming up to “big days,” she would share things she found helpful early on in her grief. On several occasions, she shared…