From My Heart to Yours — Choosing Faith and Hope When Life Brings the Unthinkable

No one gets to choose what adversity they will face in life. We do get a choice in what we do with it.

I started Can’t Change That out of my own grief, as a space for those searching for hope after loss. Whether you’re grieving or walking alongside someone who is, you are not alone. Here, you’ll find honest reflections, faith-filled encouragement, and reminders that God’s love meets us even in the darkest seasons.

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  Grief and Loss | Learning in Grief | What Influences Grief

  Is A Grief Group Right For Me Right Now?

  Byjthomas August 28, 2025August 23, 2025

  Wondering if you’re ready to join a grief support group? Explore six key questions that reveal whether this step could help you right now—or later on your journey.

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  Grief and Loss | Holidays and Hard Days | What Influences Grief

  Grief and Birthdays: Remembering Loved Ones With Love

  Byjthomas August 22, 2025August 23, 2025

  Birthdays can stir up both cake and candles—or tears and longing. For those who have lost someone, they remind us not only of what was, but also of what will never be again.

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  Christian World View | Grief and Loss | Stories Matter | What Influences Grief

  August’s Ache: Celebrating Life In The Midst Of Loss

  Byjthomas August 15, 2025August 23, 2025

  August holds both celebration and ache for my family—birthdays, anniversaries, and the reminder of who is missing. Faith assures me Bryan is alive with Christ, yet sorrow remains. In this tender space where joy and grief meet, God’s presence brings hope.

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  Christian World View | Grief and Loss | Learning in Grief

  When You Can’t Speak the Pain, Create It

  Byjthomas August 8, 2025August 23, 2025

  Creativity can speak when grief leaves you silent. Whether it’s journaling, painting, or music, creative expression helps calm the nervous system, restore a sense of control, and open the door to hope. In the quiet act of making something, healing often begins.